Depression is a powerless disease. It makes people lose their morale and become very debilitated. It also affects the relationship between themselves and their loved ones.
Depression is like a city wall between two people, and it is harder to pass through this city wall than imagined.
Falling in love with someone who suffers from depression is an arduous "errand". It has nothing to do with future marriage talks, but just maintaining the relationship seems to have become a difficult task.
Recently, a friend around me encountered something like this: my girlfriend who had been with me for many years finally broke up with me because I was suffering from depression and now I have some signs of relapse. I don’t want to drag him down, and I don’t want to make myself too tired. Up.
"Perhaps, I can't make it anymore. Their family has been forcing her to marry, and I am helpless and responsible for her condition."
This is a very unfortunate thing. I have persisted in love for many years and dreamed of the future countless times. The beauty of the two marriages was wiped out because of depression.
Falling in love with a person suffering from depression does require courage, because it is necessary to accompany the other person to face and walk through those gloomy moments.
But if it is just courage, it is far from enough.
If they can learn more about the professional knowledge of depression, maybe the two people will be able to go longer and better face the challenges of depression together in the future.
There are many manifestations of depression, and the impact on everyone is different. It can even be said that every person suffering from depression has different experiences, causes and manifestations.
But fortunately, no matter how "cunning", the performance of depression will always fluctuate within a range, so we can learn more about professional knowledge in order to be aware of its arrival in time.
When your partner suffers from depression, you have to remember these points
1. Depression can make people shrink
Falling in love with someone with depression can make you feel like hide-and-seek once in a while. They may be fine in the first second, and disappear before your eyes in the next second.
Depression can make people withdraw, because they have lost too much mental energy. Only by temporarily shrinking and "hiding" can they recover their energy.
So you have to remind yourself that the other party disappeared not because you did something wrong, nor because there was something wrong with the relationship, nor because they didn't love you anymore, but because he needed to back down at that moment.
2. Depression is not an option, it can also be treated and overcome
It's not that people with depression don't want to be happy in their hearts, but that their brains don't make themselves happy. The depression, emptiness, and despair they encountered were not their own choices, but the result of illness.
But these problems can be alleviated and controlled by treatment, so be confident that your significant other can overcome depression.
3. Appropriately allow your own bad temper
If your partner suffers from depression, you will occasionally feel hopeless or depressed, and for a few moments, you will be very angry. Be appropriate to allow your own bad temper, rather than self-blame or deny. Your common enemy is depression, not the person next to you. Therefore, allow yourself to have some negative emotions, and constantly perceive and experience this feeling, and then continue to face this "war of resistance."
4. Ask the person what you can do to help him
The main cause of depression is still internal, but we can still do something to help a person who is in depression. So you can occasionally ask the person if you need to do something on your own to make him feel better. If he gives you some feedback, then you must listen carefully, not prevaricate.
5. Don't ask them why you are frustrated
Sadness is not the same as depression. Sadness is usually a realistic stimulus that produces short-lived but strong emotional reactions. But depression is different. Many times we don’t know why we are depressed, just like people with depression don’t know why they are depressed.
Therefore, if you always ask a depressed patient why he is depressed, why he is desperate, and why he wants to be like this, it will not help them at all, and it may have the opposite effect.
so：
Depression is a very complex disease. Even people who seem to be going well may suffer from depression. The support of family members and partners is very important for the relief and recovery of depression, and it may not be that difficult.
With more understanding, we are one step closer to defeating depression.
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