8 things that relatives and friends must not do for people with depression!

Depression patients are particularly sensitive, and it is easy to take things that others don't care about, and fall into a cycle of self-torture. For example, when the patient’s relatives and friends are caring for the patient or are with the patient, inadvertently certain words and deeds (some words and deeds that the patient’s relatives and friends may think are nothing but normal) may stimulate the patient’s condition and deteriorate into a new one. The source of disease.

Today, New Concept Behavioral Psychology will share with you the "eight things that relatives and friends must not do to patients with depression" summarized by a person who has experienced depression and is now recovering.

1. Angry, bad words

Don't get angry in front of depressed patients, and you can't fight with them. Don't be angry with yourself, let alone be angry with the patient. The usual conflicts and anger manifestations can easily stimulate the patient, or think that you are angry because of him.

The main caregiver is sulking in front of the patient, and the patient will not be able to stand the irritation, or assume that you are angry with him. The family scolds the patient, yells loudly, speaks harshly... Regardless of whether the patient responds or not, it will cause serious harm to the patient.

One-way scolding or two-way scolding are absolutely prohibited. If the patient takes the initiative to provoke, he first scolds the family members, and the family members should be more amiable and must not be provoked. Remember, he is the patient, it is the onset of the disease, not he is scolding you.

2. Puff, cold talk

Family members cannot treat the patient as an object of anger. Although he is taking care of him, he has grievances, speaks coldly to him, and says some harsh words, which is impossible to do.

3. Give up and stay silent

Family members should not think that it is enough to give the patient food and drink. You don’t need to worry about anything else, and you don’t need to talk or communicate with him. They only treat him as a transparent person and a vegetative person, instead of treating him as a living person, ignoring the existence of him, and behaving like him. Unscrupulous. In particular, it does not pay attention to it, does not speak, does not speak to him, and does not respond to his words and actions.

4. Complaining, nagging

Family members provide assistance in daily life and rest. It may indeed be very hard. They need to talk and release their emotions, but they cannot speak to the patient, sighing, screaming, screaming, and thinking about everything, and saying everything. Such unwillingness, coupled with frequent complaints, is bound to make the patient's condition worse.

5. Questioning and getting to the bottom

When dealing with depression patients, don't ask in a questioning tone: "How can this be?", "Is this the right thing to do?", "What on earth do you want?"...These will stimulate the fragile minds of depression patients. . And those impatient questions and accusations will also affect the improvement of the patient's condition.

6. Crying, making trouble

The family members of depression patients or as their good friends will have great sadness, pain and helplessness in their hearts. But such emotions cannot be expressed in front of the patient, cannot cry in front of the patient, and do not speak to the patient in a crying tone. Because the patient is so sensitive, they will automatically explain that the family and friends who were harmed by him are so painful, which will only make their condition worse.

7. Lessons and preaching

Family members should not try to tell the patient what is right and what to do is good. This can only make the patient more inferior and depressed. The patient knows everything, right, good, correct, rational, and valuable... When family friends think that the depressed patient does not know anything, and when they teach the patient, they will only let the patient treat themselves More disgusting and disgusting-I know, I know everything, but I just can't do it.

8. Criticize and blame

When communicating with patients with depression, do not directly tell the patients or accuse him, saying that he did something wrong here and did not do it right there, how can it be like this, it is wrong, etc. It is not that the patient does not understand right and wrong, nor is it unreasonable, and it is not because of irrationality that he becomes a patient.

Therefore, such pointing out mistakes or accusing patients can only bring about the opposite effect and reverse behavior. They will be like children. You tell him to go to the east and he to the west. You call him not to do this, but to do that.