Home quarantine makes the partners who usually work separately have to get along day and night, which can enhance the relationship for some people, and for some couples, it makes them bother to look at each other, and even the relationship appears to be cracked.
Marital rape refers to having a sexual relationship with one's partner (mainly a female partner) against their will. Violating your partner’s wishes or not getting your partner’s consent during sex is the key.
Studies have shown that 10%-14% of married or cohabiting women have experienced at least one rape attempt from a partner, and this data should be much lower than the actual value, because many women do not treat marital rape as rape They may even think that it is the "wife's responsibility" to meet every one-time needs of their partners.
The fact is that of all types of rape (stranger rape, acquaintance rape, date rape), marital rape is the most common. For married or cohabiting women, the probability of being raped by a partner is four times the probability of being raped by a stranger.
The offender usually uses certain strategies to make the offended person submit. Marital rape may be violent or non-violent, such as the wife’s "submission."
In the non-violent type of marital rape, the husband usually uses verbal coercion to make the wife “consent” to the sexual act, through the so-called “wife’s responsibility” or his own overwhelming power in the relationship. The partner submits.
Violent marital rape can also be subdivided into abusive, compulsive and obsessive types.
The abusive type is the most common type of violent marital rape. The husband who uses this method will beat and abuse his wife with words to make the wife yield; the compulsive type refers to the use of coercive behaviors (controlling hands and feet, forced opening of legs, etc.) during sex ); the obsessive type refers to the use of less "orthodox" methods (binding, sm, etc.) to rape the wife.
In reality, the abuse of wives is usually a mixture of multiple types. But remember, no matter what kind of coercive method the partner adopts, as long as the sexual act does not get the wife's consent, it is marital rape. Marital rape often leaves the victim with serious physical and psychological damage, such as depression, PTSD, etc., which is absolutely undesirable.
What kind of person is more likely to commit marital rape?
If some rules can be found, tragedies can be prevented to a certain extent.
The first thing to consider is non-sexual domestic violence. Among women who were victims of domestic violence, 34% reported that they had been raped in marriage, and only 3% of women who had never experienced domestic violence reported rape in marriage.
Amy D. Marshall, a professor of sociology at the University of Pennsylvania, pointed out that the physical and verbal violence of domestic violence husbands against their wives is positively related to their sexual coercion against their wives.
In addition, marital rape is more likely to occur in a marriage relationship of insufficient quality, such as two people often not together, poor communication or no intimacy between two people, etc.
Wives who have a large social status gap and are obviously "weak" in marriage are also more likely to suffer marital rape. For example, their wives are significantly younger (the age difference is more than 10 years), the difference in education and income is greater, and the lack of social resources, and Housewives, pregnant wives, and sick wives, etc.
Wives who are in a particular disadvantaged position in a particular culture also face the trouble of marital rape. In a survey in the United States, researchers found that non-white wives, such as blacks or Indians, are more likely to be victims of marital rape.
A husband who commits marital rape usually has a strong possessive desire for his wife and is immersed in the sense of power brought to him by the relationship between husband and wife. These husbands are not necessarily in the upper hand of power in society, and they do not necessarily have high social status, but he is superior to his wives. Such a person is more likely to regard his wife as his "property" and require his wife to perform what she calls "wife duties."
I am a victim, what should I do?
Sadly, women who have experienced marital rape rarely really resist the perpetrator.
Studies have found that, compared with victims of non-marital sexual violence, victims of marital rape are 68% less likely to resist. Even if they resist, they will only resort to linguistic resistance.
Raquel Kennedy Bergen, professor of sociology at St. Joseph University, conducted an in-depth qualitative study of 40 women in shelters for victims of domestic violence. She found that these were deeply involved in marital rape. The first reaction of most of the victims of harm is not to ask for help or leave their husbands. They will endure the violence until it becomes unbearable.
They do this for many reasons, such as fear of being retaliated, feeling ashamed or self-blaming. The most terrible thing is that many of them think that marital rape is not a serious problem.
It can be seen that marital rape is obviously not uncommon, but it is difficult to get the attention of public opinion.
In fact, even if married, the wife is still an independent individual, and her sexual rights are still inviolable. In our country, there have also been multiple cases of guilty of rape within marriage.
As long as it is a sexual act against the other person’s wishes, it is rape, regardless of whether the person is your wife or not.
"No" after saying "Yes, I do" still stands for No.
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